IT’S ABSOLUTELY TRUE. One thing that I have experienced in my life first hand is you get what you put out in the world and if it’s love, love you will receive. If you love life, then life will love you back. I promise! Nothing else matters. Don’t let anyone else (I know it’s super challenging) bring you down. If you feel great, don’t apologize for it or hide it, let yourself shine and surround yourself with people that make you feel great too, not people that make you feel guilty for your happiness or uncomfortable for their unhappiness.
I have a lot of thoughts on my mind right now. I was talking to a girlfriend the other day that I have known for a very long time and she were expressing to me that she finally felt at ease in her life because she stopped surrounding herself with people that brought her down and overall started making better choices. I could totally relate with her and at the same time felt so proud of her.
Some people such as myself have a really strong empathy gene. We want to be there for e v e r y body and want to be the shoulder they cry on and lean on. There comes a point though where it becomes unhealthy. Where it becomes a pattern. It’s draining as heck and your find that it’s only wasting some precious time and space in your life. I am not saying don’t be there for your friends in need (not at all) but be careful. Protect your heart and stay clear of those that will mistreat it. And it’s not like they do it on purpose, I truly believe they don’t know they are doing it. All I’m saying is make sure you are prioritizing yourself, so that you can be a better person to others.
That is something I recently learned after I got married. I used to never put myself first. E V E R. We can’t constantly be there for other people because it’s exhausting. As much as we want to be the best daughter, sister, friend, wife and mother, we can’t give ourselves all the time. If you find yourself stuck in the same dilemma then it’s time for a change. If you keep asking yourself the same questions like how did I get here again, then it’s time to make a real change in your life. Don’t want to be stressed, worried or in a dysfunctional situation? Then don’t be. It’s really that simple.
It’s not SIMPLE in the sense of the word because there are probably a million little steps that need to be done, but making the first step towards that direction is always the hardest and then everything else will s i m p l y fall into place. Promise. There is always a solution. I’ve discovered too that it’s all in our mind and in the way we choose to view the choices we make. Life is all about choices. We want something good, lets create something good.
I know it’s scary to cut negative people out of your life forever, but if you don’t, they will always be there consuming your precious time. Cut people out of your life that bring chaos and you will find yourself feeling so liberated and at peace that it will have never mattered. Keep them in your life and you will constantly have this shadow weighing you down. Be strong, know better and trust yourself that your decisions as hard as they may be, will bring you a brighter and happier future.
There is a whole lot of dysfunction. People around me that are suppose to be my role models and my best examples but have constantly let me down. I don’t necessary blame them though because I can clearly see that they are just a product of their environment. I have learned so much from other peoples mistakes so it makes me want to strive for better. I know no one can ever be perfect, but we can try 😉 When bad decisions and actions are made on a regular basis, I can see how for some people it starts to become normal. That’s just life or that’s just what it is and you keep doing it. For me, it’s a repellent. I see a bad decision made and a horrible outcome and I steer as far away from that as possible. We can’t keep repeating a cycle that is unhealthy.
One of the many things that I feel I have leaned is that if you want a happy and positive life, you have to create it. It is completely a choice. It really is! I know because I have seen it and because I have done it.
I thank my lucky stars each and everyday for bringing people into my life like my husband who is the greatest example of authenticity and of someone who is honest, loving, and has such a positive and healthy outlook on life. He has opened my world and introduced so many amazing experiences into my life that I would have never had if it weren’t for him. I feel so blessed that we bond on the fact that we want better and we love the simple things and we love adventure and travel and building a life of love and positivity and a life where we don’t surround ourselves in negative environments.
For whatever reason I feel compelled to share my story. To share my life and all its little adventures because I came from a very dark place during childhood to a positive happy one as an adult. I would say I have always been a bright and positive person but not until I moved out and went to college was I able to flourish in a healthier environment. You can’t chose your family, but you can chose your friends and who you allow into your life.
I wear my heart on my sleeve and I am an open book and I guess it’s just how I am wired. We all express ourselves differently and for me pictures and writing really capture and showcase the memories and stories I never want to forget and the thoughts currently circulating in my head. I know I’m an awful writer and probably have more miss spelled words and run-on sentences in this post than you could probably count. Ha ha!
When I’m 80 and tired and have grand-babies, I know I’ll look back at all this and smile, laugh, cry and love the fact that I documented my (our) life.
I’ll leave you with this. A video my husband sent me this morning. This is reason 101 + why I love him so and why I feel so blessed to have such a positive soul in my life. This isn’t our video but it reminds me of adventures we have experienced together. He sent me this and without any captions or write up and I knew exactly what he was thinking by it. Anyway, enjoy: